Chase beauty? Chase what beauty? What is “beautiful”?
Truthfully, it’s not for me to say what your beauty should be, or how to go about chasing it, or how to live your life. This, however, is what I know:
Life is fucking short, and the time we have to make our lives really count is fucking fleeting.
Given that it’s father’s day, the aforementioned shortness of time is particularly on my mind. My dad died when he was 45, a life cut short by cancer. He didn’t have all the time he needed to do everything he wanted. I’m 35 now, ten years short of where he was when he gave up the ghost. It’s been a long road to processing through how his death has affected me, and it’s something that I work on every day.
To that end, I’ve decided that, after years of talking about it, I’m going to ride my bike across the country. I leave Wednesday morning for Santa Cruz, California, and my final destination will likely be Wrightsville Beach, North Carolina. I’m estimating that it’ll take in the neighborhood of three to four months to complete. There’s no doubt that it will be amazing, uncomfortable, terrifying, heartbreaking (in both good and bad senses), and a learning experience. I’m sure that if I make it all the way, I will be a stronger, more grounded person.
Either way, the main thing that I’ve taken away from my dad’s death is that we have to make the most of our moments count, because there is no guarantee of how many of those moments we’ll get.
So, that’s what “chase beauty” means to me: looking for those moments and places and people and actions that fill up the times, that fill our hearts with hope and nourishment and a desire to fucking live life as hard and as meaningfully as we can.
Here we go.